We are all similar to movie projectors, constantly sending images out into our lives of how we value and perceive ourselves.
Until we learn to love our inner child, we project and continue to draw into ourselves patterns set in childhood.
Imagine what could happen if people who played out negative films of their early years could fire their internal directors and then rewrite their scripts. Consider the examples below:
An honored community leader who has worked on healing wounds of his own childhood abuse becomes tearfully aware he has done the same to his children. He soon contacts them, begs their forgiveness, and then arranges and supports their therapy.
A renowned teacher who empowers many adults finally becomes able to speak up for her own wishes and needs.
A young man who left home at 15 and is running his own lawn care business at 18 receives group support for courage to escape an abusive father. He is applauded for his willingness to open himself to grieve the past and heal while still in his teens.
A woman who felt nervous when she had guests in her home realizes she no longer needs to hide the alcoholic father the family tried to keep secret 40 years ago.
To truly transform your life you need to transform your patterns and heal your childhood wounds.
You can learn to deeply relax into your heart and allow yourself to receive Divine support as you revisit, grieve, and re-script the poignant childhood moments that create the painful patterns that we relive today. Below are four simple tools you can use to love your inner child, heal, and rewrite your scripts. When you love your inner child, new self images miraculously form and project outward, drawing in love, success, health, and happiness into your life.
Affirmations: Starting with birth, allow yourself to remember feelings and memories that were painful. Write or say affirmations from your heart that the wounded child has been waiting, often for decades, to hear. “You are so beautiful. I’m glad you were born. I’m glad you are a boy [or girl]. Take all the time you need to get your needs met. It is my joy to be here for you now and always. I will never leave you. I am always here for you. It is safe to explore and ask questions. It is OK to say no. I hear you. I love you.”
Often, when people address patterns from their past that do not serve them they say affirmations. This is a good practice; however, if you merely say affirmations the patterns will shimmer a little and then settle into the background. Hence, it’s important to ask for Divine support and to deeply, deeply relax into the heart—then the old, sad, scary, lonely patterns dissolve in tears.
Writing Exercise: Imagine you are still the child—infant, toddler, preschool, grammar school. Write a note with your non-dominant hand expressing what you need. For example,
“Hold me. Tell me I’m good. I feel so scared and alone. Please, please don’t ever leave me again.”
Spoken Exercise: Firmly utter the too long unspoken words out loud.”I feel hurt! Treat me with respect! Show that you love me!”
Meditation: As a more advanced technique, you can work on Inner Child Meditation. To contact your inner child, ask your angels to come with you. Feel their soft, warm, infinitely gentle embrace. See their radiance. Hear and feel deep within their wonderful harmonies. Put yourself in the hands of your Higher Power, or God, as you understand him or her. Ask this spirit to radiate a brilliant light into the crown of your head, gradually flowing down like a relaxing waterfall and filling your entire being, muscles, bones, joints, organs, and glands. The light may be white, golden, or purple; it may change as it flows through your center and your bones and blood vessels. Inhale, expanding your belly, ribs, heart; exhale, letting go, softly whispering the word “love.” Allow this light to gradually fill your skull, brain, eyes, ears, neck, shoulders; relaxing, relaxing into the light, each muscle, organ, gland, joint, cell of your being. Then breathe this light out the pores of your skin, forming a huge circle of light under, over, all around you, protecting, healing, guiding you. Ask your angels to come with you as you float down, down, down the clear blue river of time, back through adulthood, teenage years, school age, all the way back to the earliest time you remember.
Perhaps you see a beautiful baby, reaching up its little palms to you. Your heart opens. You feel a deep chord of love vibrating between the two of you. Reaching down, you may embrace the infant, feeling your angels embracing you. “I am here with you. You will never be alone again. Take all the time you need to get your needs met. I love being here with you.” Perhaps you come upon a scene from grammar school or the family dinner table. Let your angels ground and support you. Stand on your feet, “I feel hurt when you treat me this way. Speak to me with respect. See me, hear me, show me love!”
Continue to allow memories or images to come to your awareness, acknowledge them, love your inner child, and then let them go. Hold your inner child the way you’ve always wanted to be held. Love your inner child the way you’ve always wanted to be loved. When you are ready, take a deep breath and release.
Know the power of seeing this happen in your mind, and let us all visualize every child on Earth born into a home of harmony and love, on Earth as it is in Heaven.
Mahalo, thank you with love.
By Megan Gray
Author’s note: A new group is forming for people to share the experience of loving their inner child. By sharing these activities in a group, people learn they are not alone and receive from the group the affirmations they have longed to hear their entire lives. Resources used in the group include Homecoming by John Bradshaw, the book Angel Therapy, by Doreen Virtue, and angel meditations by Emily Andrews (see Emily’s column in this publication). Call Megan Gray 727-729-2246 for more information.